A while ago, I wrote a post Do You Appreciate Your Partner? and in it I spoke about how my husband and I used to say one thing we appreciated about the other before going to sleep at night. I can’t remember how long we did it for but I do remember that it made a big difference in our relationship.
Although right now, things are pretty ok on the home front, I tend to find myself getting annoyed very easily with certain things my husband does or doesn’t do. I realise that I’m focusing on the negatives a lot more than I am on the positives of who he is and what he does. And quite honestly, I don’t really want to be doing this. With him or with myself or any aspect of my life. I am striving to have a far more positive outlook on life and to be a lot more gentle on my husband and particularly on myself because the two are inextricably connected.
Is this just me or do you know what I’m talking about?
I’ve been feeling like we’re needing to focus on our appreciation of each other which is why I’m setting us (and YOU) a challenge.
What is it?
Well, do you think you can find something to appreciate about your partner every day for 30 days? And let them know what it is that you appreciate them for?
Sure, sometimes we might think it, we might say it but do we say it every day? Because, really, there is always something to be grateful and appreciative for every single day but life gets in the way and we tend to be verbal about our annoyances more than our appreciations (or is that just me?). So, do you think you can do it?
Are you with me???
If you’re sitting there asking yourself ‘why should you do it?’ perhaps instead you should be asking the question ‘why shouldn’t you?’
What do you need to do? Simple. Just tell your partner one thing you appreciate about them every day for 30 days starting on the 1st July.
If you miss out on a couple of days, don’t sweat it. Just carry on. The point is to remember to appreciate each other because in our busy lives, it is so easy to forget this simple act which means so much to everyone.
Who doesn’t want to feel appreciated!?
You can do it verbally if you want but here’s what I’m going to be doing and would love for you to do the same. I have created a free printable to help you with this. Here, you can both write down what you appreciate about the other every day. When you’re done with the challenge, keep what you’ve written. Frame it, stick it up, do what you want with it but keep it. Keep it for those moments when you’re struggling to find anything to appreciate about your partner, for those moments when you’re not feeling the love, when you’re not connecting. Keep it for when you need a gentle reminder of why you love and appreciate the person you’re with, and in turn, what they love and appreciate about you. I have created 2 jars where I will be keeping our written appreciations. Be as creative as you want with this!
I will be using the #AYPchallenge and #datenight hashtags so make sure if you post anything to use that as well so that we can share and see our appreciations and create a positive feeling of love and gratitude for the one’s we love.
So, are you ready???
Get your partner on board. Appreciation needs to come from both sides.
We will officially start the challenge on the 1st July…yay! I’m super excited!
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Please share share share this challenge as I think we all could do with some appreciation in our lives and let me know if you’re in by commenting below.
Download your free Appreciate Your Partner 30 Day Challenge printable.