So…the big reveal…what we did for our first date night?
Firstly, let me start by saying that I am the biggest home body there is. I am a total creature of comfort and just love being home.
Particularly in winter when it’s raining and cold, to get me out of the house is no easy task. So in saying all that, it sounds like I’m going to say, ‘well, it was cold and rainy on this night but we went out anyway!’ Actually…no…for this date, being end of month, cold and rainy outside, this home body stayed exactly where I wanted to be…at home.
The reason for date nights, besides connecting, is also about breaking out of our usual routine that we get so stuck in, whether it’s sitting on the couch and watching a movie or whatever it may be for you, that simple change in routine is enough to make your relationship feel alive and pulsing.
I had been thinking of what we could do for our date night at home, and then it came to me…let’s make a tent! I had an idea of how I would set it up and make it feel special. I felt a bit like a little kid that whole day. Excited for night to come and make our tent. When I spoke to my husband that day, there was an air of anticipation and excitement…how great it was to have that feeling! Initially I wanted it to be a surprise but I needed my husband’s help with the setting up of it so I told him. His initial reaction of ”umm…okaay…” made me doubt my brilliant idea a bit but he went along with it. Once our ‘tent’ was up, I set the mood by putting a blanket down, some cushions, candles and the fire, of course, was roaring. Sitting there together, my hubby said: ‘This is quite cool’ . Of course, I told him straight away he was going to be quoted for this post 😉
We had a really lovely evening. At one point we were just lying there listening to music and we realised that in our busy lives, we don’t do this enough. Just be with each other. In each other’s arms. We’re always doing something, even if we’re doing it together so it was really good to just be able to savour the moment. With those of you with kids, you’ll understand that those mornings of just lying in bed together, chilling and chatting are few and far between or non existent so it was really good to create the space to do that. And I realised that sometimes you do have to create the space.
You have to set an intention.
Because, in all honesty, if it wasn’t for me writing this blog, our night would have gone very differently. We had both had stressful days and easily could have sat on the couch and watched a movie. But we had made a commitment and I’m so happy we didn’t go to our default night together because our camping out in our lounge connected us, chilled us out, and made me more excited than ever to see what we’re up to for our next date night when it’s my husband’s turn to plan…no pressure love! 😉
Please forgive the bad quality of the pictures, still getting into it.
Our dinner (butter chicken) before setting up the tent.