One of the biggest reasons I think we don’t do Date Nights often enough is that we just can’t think of what to do when we want to do it. It’s like the supper dilemma. For those of you out there who make supper day in and day out, you can understand that the question of ‘what’s for supper?’ is enough to drive you completely insane!
I sometimes phone my husband when I’m standing in the aisles of Woolies having walked around aimlessly for the last who knows how long and I ask him, plead with him ‘what do you want? Just tell me. Anything! Just so long as I don’t have to think of it myself!’
Date Nights are a bit like that, though thankfully, not as torturous. But that act of having to think, it’s like the brain shuts down and the the ability to think completely eludes us and so we don’t, for the effort is just too much. At the same time, however, we know how important it is for our relationship so we must do it…And here is where the Date Nights Jar comes in.
Take one evening, make it a ‘At Home Date Night’ activity, and discuss the different types of things you’d like to do together. Then get yourself any kind of jar and write the ideas on paper or wooden lolly sticks, pop them in and now you have a whole selection of ideas to choose from without having to think about it. All you need to do is make the commitment to Date Nights, pick from the jar what you’re going to do and enjoy! Have a look at my weekly Dating Ideas for some ideas to get you started.
Here is the process of the Date Night Jar I made but you can do it however you like. The important thing is just to do it!
You will need:
old cans (with the label off)
wooden lolly sticks
I used old baked beans/canned soup cans and washed them well. If there is a bit of glue on the can still, simply wash it in very hot water and it comes off.
I bought some spray paint from the Hardware store and set it all up in the garage. The spray paint is quite hectic so unless getting high is your thing, make sure to do it in a well ventilated area.
I first sprayed the cans with grey primer and let that dry. It dries quite quickly so this is not a very long process.
After that, I sprayed with the blue paint (the colour I used is called Seabreeze.) and let that dry for a bit. Ideally, you want to leave it to dry overnight before putting your sticks in.
Because I’m a bit of a sucker for all things crafty, I bought these paint markers but you can use any kind of coloured pens or khokis.
I decided to have 4 categories…HOME ,EAT, PLAY, EXPLORE. I left SLEEP out as this is something that needs a bit more planning than just deciding to go somewhere but if you don’t have kids and that’s not a problem for you, put it in there as well.
Using my 4 markers on the lolly sticks, I gave each category a colour and then wrote ideas for that category.
For my tag, I used letter stamps that I bought not too long ago from Typo. (I love Typo!)
I used this brown string which I got from another favourite of mine, Ebony and Ivory.
I was so happy with the way the cans turned out. In fact, I made some for my girls as well for their pencil crayons 🙂 and have bought purple and white spray paint to make some more.
But back to Date Nights, you now have no excuse of not knowing what to do. Take turns picking a stick. Add your own categories. Get creative. Get naughty. Have fun!