1. Make a tent.
There is something really romantic and cosy about being in a tent. Put the fire on, order take aways, get some wine and snacks and just enjoy being together. If you haven’t done so already, have a look at my post on our tent date night.
2. Watch your wedding video.
Seeing as this was quite a catalyst for me in getting date nights going (Relationships Are Hard Work), I would recommend it. Watch your wedding video together if you have one or look through old pictures of the two of you.
3. Dance together!
We certainly don’t get much opportunity to go out dancing anymore so make it happen at home. Put on some awesome dancing that you both enjoy and have fun!
4. Play board games.
Winter is the perfect time to switch the TV off and put all gadgets away. Light the fire, pour some wine and bring out the board games. We recently played Scrabble which we have not played in forever and it was a great way to connect and spend time together.
5. Make a ‘Date Nights Jar’ together.
Think of all the things you would like to do together for Date Nights and put them in a jar. When you can’t think of what to do, simply pick an idea from the jar and you’re sorted. Here is the Date Nights Jar I made.
6. Take a bath together.
Light the candles, get some wine, some snacks and indulge in a nice hot bath together. The intimacy and warmth of the bath relaxes you straight away putting you both in the right mood to connect.
7. Cook dinner together.
Make a plan in advance of what you’re going to make. Make it something different and unique that requires some team effort. It can be a really fun and intimate experience.
8. Create your own massage parlour at home.
Light candles, put on music, make sure to heat the room up and take turns massaging each other. Who knows where it will lead…;)
9. Watch a movie.
Sometimes, especially in winter, you just want to snuggle up together and watch a movie. Get some snacks and make sure you both agree on the movie. Try get something that will inspire some conversation afterwards and that you can both relate to.
10. Do something creative together.
Whether it’s a project like refurbishing an old coffee table, drawing together, what ever it is, find something you both enjoy doing and be creative together.
11. Plan your Date Nights.
Sit down together and discuss the kinds of things you want to do together, look at your schedules and make it happen! You can download this free printable date night planner to help you get started.
12. Create a visionboard.
Whether you believe in this kind of thing or not, find a way to do it that works for you. Have you discussed the vision you both have for your lives together? For your family? For destinations you want to travel to? Whether it’s in the form of a discussion or cutting out and pasting pictures on a board, create a vision of the life you want together.
13. Read out loud to each other.
This might sound a bit corny but it’s actually a lovely intimate thing to do together. Get into bed, or lie on the couch together, choose a book that you both agree on and take turns reading to each other.
14. Make a present ‘wish list’.
Avoid the disappointment of not getting the ‘right’ thing and write a list of all the presents you each desire. That way, when it’s time for a present, whether it’s a surprise one or a special occasion, you know what to get each other and can still have the surprise element but not the disappointment that often comes with it
15. Appreciate each other.
It is very easy to always focus on what our partners are doing wrong but do we tell them about all the things they’re doing right? Take the evening to write down all the things you appreciate about each other and then take turns telling each other.
16. Colour in together.
I was given an adult colouring in book for my birthday and I have really been enjoying it as a great way to unwind and relax. I think this is a great way to spend time together, chatting, maybe sipping some wine while colouring in to your hearts content. And no, this is not just for girls!
17. What is your ‘Love Language’?
According to Gary Chapman , author of The 5 Love Languages, we all have a different way of showing and receiving love. What is yours? Take this 5 Love languages quiz together and find out. (Watch these cute videos if you want to find out more)
18. Take stock of your relationship.
Turn off all devices, your phones, TV etc. Sit down together and discuss your relationship. What works for you, what doesn’t? You can use these 10 questions taken from the about.com site to help you get started.
19. Play Twister.
Twister does not have to be a kids only game. Playing twister can get you into all sorts of interesting positions which will guarantee a good laugh plus who knows what else? You could add your own versions and make it strip twister, naked twister, whatever feels right for the 2 of you 😉
20. Chill out together.
Life tends to be so busy so sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing at all. Switch off all devices, dim the lights, light the candles, put some music on, sip some wine if you want. Lie outside in a hammock, the couch or somewhere where you can lie together and just BE!
21. Put a Playlist Together.
My husband and I had a seriously rocking party at home. We spent some time beforehand putting a playlist together and everyone commented on how awesome the music was. It felt really good that we had worked together on that and it was a fun experience as well. Now we have a great playlist when we’re in the mood for dancing which is such a bonus! Set aside a night, get comfy and put a playlist together.
22. Create your own marriage
Is your marriage the way you envisioned it? Is it the way you want it to be? Take the night and discuss what it is you expect from each other, want from each other, need from each other. Create the kind of marriage that YOU want, and not what is expected from society or anyone else.
23. Order The Love Box
Everything you need to create a beautiful experience for the two of you spending quality time together is in The Love Box. Set the mood by lighting a candle, have a romantic bath together while you nibble on some chocolate and sip some (non-alcoholic) gin and tonic, have a real conversation without interruptions, followed by a massage for both of you (be fair!) and taking the night to wherever it leads you…you can order The Love Box over here.
24. No Talking Allowed
How about not talking for the night? Sounds a bit strange but hear me out…turn off all devices, dim the lights (not too much as you need to write) get an empty journal book and converse by writing to each other. You might not know what to write at first but give it some time and I assure you, you’ll come up with something. Sometimes writing instead of talking allows us to express ourselves easier as we let go a bit more of our inhibitions. Try it…you never know where it’ll lead to.
25. Do A Puzzle Together
You know how some things are meant for the kids but you end up finding yourself getting totally into it yourself? This happened with us just recently with a puzzle. Turns out puzzles can be quite addictive and a fun thing to do together. With the fire going (if it’s winter), some snacks, and drinks this is a great way to spend a date night at home together.