If you are reading this and you have been following my blog for a while, then I feel like I owe you an apology. The reason being is that I sort of just disappeared and didn’t leave you with any explanation of where I went so here it is…

I haven’t blogged for about 6 months because I have started another business. And while I could try do them both at the same time, I really want to put all my focus and energy into my business to make it work.

Aside from that, I’m not totally sure I’m a blogger. Let me explain what I mean…

Firstly, I’ll be completely honest and tell you that although I really believe in what I was blogging about, at some point the goal was always to make money from my blog because there is only so much I can give of myself and of my time without getting monetary reward back and the fact that I have 2 kids who need to be fed and go to school and and…

So when it comes to blogging there are a few ways to make money and none of them really sit well with me.
I’ve had some lovely experiences but it started to feel that if my husband and I had a meal out or a night away and I needed to blog about it, it kind of took something away from our time and experience together as my thoughts were on what I would need to blog about. It wasn’t a complete switch off which is the whole point of being together and going on date nights. I am also not into taking pictures of ourselves and our food constantly so really, I just don’t think I’m a blogger. While I was always honest when writing my posts, there was something about having to take that picture of us out on a date night that felt inauthentic to me and a bit forced and that’s not how I want it to be with us. My relationship will always come first and it felt like needing to blog about our experiences together was tainting something.

So while I may think I’m not a ‘blogger’, what I do think I am is someone who tries to be authentic and honest in my life and with others. And that really was what I was trying to convey in my blog posts about our marriage and myself. I was hoping to inspire people to get out and have fun together, to communicate with another, to be honest with each other. I was hoping, by sharing my own experiences, that you would know that marriage is not easy. The ‘happily ever after’ is a myth without doing what’s required to achieve that. And it is paying attention to your marriage each and every day. I was hoping to make you feel normal and ok if things weren’t feeling like the honeymoon you expected, if you sometimes don’t like each other, feel resentment, sad, unappreciated. These are all such normal issues and dynamics that go on in marriages but we don’t seem to talk about them…as a community and as couples. I was hoping to inspire people, inspire you, to realise the importance of constantly feeding your marriage if you want it to last. To go on those date nights, spend time together, put each other first (yes, before the kids) because that’s what’s needed if you want to stay ‘together forever’. Because it’s what I want for myself and my marriage.

So I haven’t been sure as to where that has left me and my blog. I have loved writing the personal stuff, the honest stuff and I could continue doing that but it’s not where I am right now. I’ve tried to think of other ways to structure my blog so that it can still carry on but I haven’t been successful with that. For now, I’ve just let it rest a bit which is why I have been so absent. I haven’t really been sure what to tell you, what to say as I’ve been quite unclear myself as to what to do with it, where it’s going or not going. I’ve also been avoiding writing this post and instead have just carried on sort of ignoring it. Which is why I wanted to apologise to you but truthfully, I haven’t really known what to say as I’m still not sure. For now, my blog is still up, there are still posts there that you can read and perhaps can help you. I don’t see myself posting for a while if at all but who knows where life will lead me.

As mentioned I have started my new business which has been going really well. My business is called Gifted and we do bespoke gifting for hospitality, corporates and events. As with everything in life, I like to do things a bit differently and with some meaning so this is my version of that in the gifting world. So, I am still around but have just changed focus and direction. If you’d like to have a look at my site and more about what I’m doing, you can find me at www.giftedforyou.co.za and on Instagram and Facebook. Please say hi by liking, following, signing up etc. and get in touch if you require unique and customised gifts 🙂

Right…so this is not good bye but rather thank you. Thank you for taking the time to read my posts. For commenting, for sharing, for liking. Thank you for reflecting, being inspired, looking within. Thank you for being part of this journey. I hope to have you join me on my next one. Until then…

Bianca x

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