For this month’s ‘Your Stories,’ we meet Carmen and Bradley. Carmen is a wife, mom and together with Bradley, owns and runs Babarazzi, an online store selling top quality baby brands. What I love about hearing ‘Your Stories’ is how life brings two people together in sometimes strange and unconventional ways as is the case here with these two. Thank you Carmen and Bradley for sharing your story with us.
How long have you been together?
We’ve been together for 5 years and 4 months. Married for 4 years and 10 months
How many children do you have and what are their ages?
I have 3 children (2 with him) though he is 100% daddy/father to my oldest (8 year-old) boy, (3-year-old) boy and (8-week-old) baby girl.
How did having children change/affect your relationship?
I love parenting with him! He’s a hands-on, nappy-changing, fun-loving, patient and caring father! We are part of a team and having kids has made us closer! I mean who does not love a man who is hands-on with the kids?
How did you first meet?
He had a brief fling with one of my school friends. I had a mini reunion with some friends at my place and she brought him as a date – 3 weeks later she ended their brief relationship to rekindle the flame with her baby daddy (who she married this year).
What was it about your partner that you were first attracted to?
At first there was no attraction – I just thought he was a really nice guy (really). I felt for him when my friend gave him the boot; I guess his honesty and broken heart attracted me because I just wanted to make him feel better.
If you’re married, what was the proposal like?
It’s a bit crazy. We met in April when he was dating my friend; she dumped him in May. By June we had started dating. During August I was away for a working weekend and when he picked me up at the airport (with my son), he got down on one knee (blush) and said this weekend without you has made me realise I want to spend the rest of my life with you.
Do you do date nights? If so, what do you normally do?
When we do get to have some time alone our date nights (sometimes date days), it can be anything from a private picnic, a simple dinner at a grown-up restaurant or our favourite: couples massages/pamper days.
What has been one of your most romantic moments together?
Our wedding day. We got married on 11/11/11 which was 2 months after he proposed.
What funny quirks does your partner have?
He has his own language and makes up words for everything! The scary thing is I know exactly what he means or says.
What is your idea of the ‘perfect relationship’?
My idea of a perfect relationship is that there is no such thing! Firstly our relationship has God at the centre. Marriage is choice you make every day. You have to respect each other! Period! Forgive a lot. Have fun and laugh together. Support each other. Share, grow and be honest. Guard you relationship even if things seem innocent, don’t allow anything to get in there! Choose your spouse every day!
“Marriage is a choice you make every day. You have to respect each other!”
To find out more about Carmen’s site, go to www.babarazzi.co.za