This month for ‘Your Stories,’ I got to learn about the special relationship between Cassarica and her boyfriend Gareth. Cassarica is an occasional blogger of all things beautiful. She loves the colour pink, tea, novelty cake, unicorns, cartoons and make-up among other lovely things. Follow her on Instagram @cassaricanadas.
How long have you been together?
It feels like forever. Gareth’s Gran was visiting us a few weeks ago and said we behave like an old married couple that has been together for years! Though it will only be 6 years that we have been together in November this year. Gareth and I started dating 2 months after we met in 2011. Did long distance for 1 year and 9 months and have been living together for 2 years!
How many children do you have and what are their ages? (if applicable)
Do Furbabies count? We have 3 exotic pets which are Chinchilla.
Has having or not having children affected your relationship in anyway?
Although we don’t have any kids just yet, having 3 little critters depending on us does play a big role in our relationship. Both Gareth and I have become more responsible and disciplined with our pets. They require extra care and we help each other and take turns caring for our furbabies. With this responsibility we have a small taste of what parent life would be like and I see a lot of good traits in Gareth and how he will be a great father one day.
How did you first meet?
I was at University at the time when I met Gareth. It was during the long break when I was bored as all my friends were not around and I thought I should try out the chatroom on Mxit. Mxit was a chat application that was quite popular when I was a teen and back in 2011 Mxit was still going strong. I logged in, found a chatroom for my area and started chatting. I found Gareth in this chatroom and we became good chat buddies over the course of the next 2 months until we decided to meet in person at my University. When Gareth arrived at the University I let him walk right past me and almost chickened out but I plucked up the courage to say hi and we walked around campus while we spoke about many different things. I skipped two classes to be with him that day and I remember sharing a piece of chocolate my mum had packed in my lunch box with him.
What was it about your partner that you were first attracted to?
I was attracted to his brilliant mind! Gareth is a very intellectual person. I have learnt so much from him and continue to learn more each day. We are the type of couple that would stop a comedy show to discuss what is going on in the world! Physically though I was attracted to his lips!
Do you do date nights? If so, what do you normally do?
We don’t specifically do Date Nights; we are quite fortunate to spend a lot of time with each other. Our Date Nights are never really planned but we love going out to the cinema or theatre together or trying out a new restaurant. We usually spend a lot of time at home where we play video games or watch series together. I am lucky to have a lot of time with Gareth, I think we are making up for all the time we were apart!
What has been one of your most romantic moments together?
There have been countless moments but I’d have to say the moment Gareth asked me to be his girlfriend. I had a terrible case of the flu when he asked – imagine a snotty-nosed red-eyed girl sitting on the edge of this guy’s bed feeling like death and wanting to escape! Then Gareth asked me if I wanted to be his. I hesitated but he said “commit a little, and just say yes!” and I did. He then went in for a kiss but I pulled away not wanting him to catch what I had and then he said “You’re worth it” and I melted.
What funny quirks does your partner have?
I love that Gareth always wants me near. If I am in the other room for too long I know he will come find me to give me cuddles. I can tell when he is missing me – everything goes quiet and then I hear his foots steps coming closer. I laugh at him sometimes; he loves his space but he loves me even more!
What is your idea of the ‘perfect relationship’?
For me, a perfect relationship would be one where both partners work together as one. Where one lacks, the other would pick up – working together for the best life they can have with one another. Being able to love even through the difficult times as well as the good. Having trust in one another and being able to count on each other during the good and the bad. A perfect relationship may not always be perfect but what matters most is being the best you can be for the one you love.
“A perfect relationship may not always be perfect but what matters most is being the best you can be for the one you love.”
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