Meet Juwayra and Alan. In addition to being a wife and a mom of three, Juwayra is also a part time student and blogger of Curlyheads & Dimples who describes herself as a curly hair enthusiast. Today for ‘Your Stories,’ we get to know a little more about Juwayra’s relationship with her husband and what makes them a great team.
How long have you been together?
We’ve been married for 12 years and together for 18 years
How many children do you have and what are their ages?
We have 3 children. Azaria, our only daughter is turning 13 this year, Jaymee, our son who is also celebrating his 11th birthday this October and Jody, the baby of the family who turns 5 two days before Christmas. Our first born, Jared, passed away at birth and would have celebrated his 14th birthday this year.
How did having children change/affect your relationship?
Gosh…to tell you the truth, there was actually no time for us to get to know each other in a marriage setup as our jobs (shifts) and kids took preference. You know that period when you get to know each other in the marriage? Well, for us it only began after 5 years of marriage. Our main focus was our kids and we forgot about each other. Completely. It was like we were just two people sharing a home and raising these kids together. We were good together as parents but we became totally out of touch with each other.
How did you first meet?
I met my husband at my church. He spent the weekend with his cousin who happened to date one of my friends at church. A few years after I met him, his mom told me that on the day that he saw me for the first time he came home and told her, “Mommy, today I saw the girl I’m going to marry”. He came to visit our church often after that and only after 6 months of bothering me *laughs*, I agreed to date him.
What was it about your partner that you were first attracted to?
Probably his persistence and the way he treated me.
If you’re married, what was the proposal like?
I was never proposed to. I fell pregnant before we even talked about getting married and he just assumed that I was going to marry him. I refused to get married due to me being pregnant and a few months after that we lost the baby. We started to talk about marriage after this but I was never asked. We just got married the following year.
Do you do date nights? If so, what do you normally do?
We never do date nights. We do try but it never happens. You will seldom see us without the kids present. It’s hard to leave without them and when they are at my Mom’s for the weekend it feels really awkward. We have realised that we need to make date night a priority so hopefully in the near future it will become part of the routine.
What has been one of your most romantic moments together?
Romantic moments?? Gosh…I don’t know. Both of us prefers chilling at home in front of the TV, cuddling, chatting, etc. Those are really special moments to me.
What funny quirks does your partner have?
I find it very funny that my husband is a bit of a neat freak. We have kids and I am the worst at keeping things organised.
What is your idea of the ‘perfect relationship’?
A perfect relationship to me would be great communication and being each other’s best friends. If you talk to each other about everything and anything, it will be easier to sort things out when trouble arise. Also, to put your spouse and your marriage first.
“If you talk to each other about everything and anything, it will be easier to sort things out when trouble arise.”
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