This week we get a bit of insight into the lives of Luchae (32) and Christopher (29) Williams from Port Elizabeth. They both lead very busy lives, having day jobs as well as various other things on the go and are both very involved in their church’s music & arts department where Luchae co-leads the choir and Christopher directs the band. It is clear that music plays a big role in their lives. Luchae is a fellow blogger and if you want to know more about her, you can find her here on her blog My spreadsheet brain.
Thank you for sharing a bit more of yourselves with us 🙂
How long have you been together?
We’ve been best friends since 2009 and officially together since 2010. So let’s say about 5 years. (Geez is that it? Feels like 25 years!)
Do you have any children? If so, their ages?
We each have a son from a previous relationship. My son, Kyle, will be 14 soon. His boy, Seth, is 9 years old. Last year, we celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary by welcoming our baby girl, Karis Leigh, into the world. It’s been another experience having a child that we are both the parent of! 😉
How did you meet?
A mutual friend of ours was recruiting members for a Battle of the Bands competition and had asked me to be a vocalist and Chris to play bass guitar. The night we met, we thought we’d try to sing a song together, to hear if our voices would complement each other. The rest, as they say, is musical history. He wore broken jeans and I had on pajama pants – so we were being the truest versions of ourselves. 🙂
What was the first thing that attracted you to each other?
I think that we were attracted to each other’s sense of humour first and foremost. We were both seeing other people at the time, so it was completely platonic. We just enjoyed each other’s company, no strings attached. Eventually, once those other relationships ended, I began to see things in him that I really admired… like the fact that he was an awesome dad to his boy; so we connected on a parenting level. The music thing was a big deal and our faith-walk an even bigger deal. Let’s just say he ticked all the right boxes. After a while it got harder and harder to share the same mic, if you know what I’m saying.
How do you stay connected?
We have weeks were life is so extremely hectic that I would get (or send) a Whatsapp asking “Do you still love me maybe?” Seeing one of those pop onto my screen puts an immediate smile on my face. Because we have a full house most of the time, we definitely revere our nights in. In fact, we seldom spend time together “outside”, because evenings at home are so precious to us. Our midnight catch ups definitely help us to stay connected to each other.
What is your idea a of a perfect date night?
Wow – an actual date night sounds like a dream right now! 🙂 I think that the perfect date night would involve good food and some entertainment (perhaps a concert or an open mic night). We also love to geocache and haven’t done so since before we were married! So the evening would have to start off with some geocaching. I know it does not sound romantic but it’s proof that deep down we are next level nerds! 🙂
If you could give one piece of relationship/marital advice what would it be?
When your partner does something to upset you, remind yourself of all his good qualities, rather than the one bad decision that he made. Life can be messy and human beings are not perfect – we grow every day! The beauty of marriage is that we get to grow together. Make room for that.
Thanks Luchae and Christopher! I wish you many more beautiful years of growing together 🙂