This is one of my favourite songs at the moment, ‘Let It Go’ by James Bay. If you haven’t heard it yet, it has nothing to do with Frozen, don’t worry 😉
Let it go
Just let it be
Why don’t you be you
And I’ll be me
Although it’s about letting go of a relationship that’s clearly not working anymore, I just love the words of the chorus and it can apply to so many other areas of our lives as well.
Without having to let go of one’s relationship, sometimes you just need to let go of certain things in order for your relationship to work. I know I’ve had to let go of certain expectations, fears, judgements regarding my husband and myself. If we can really learn how to let our partners be free to be who they are, and we are free to be who we are, I think these are the elements of a good relationship. I think it’s when we can truly be ourselves and are encouraged to do so in our relationships that we know we’re in the right one.
I used to recognise myself
It’s funny how reflections change
When we’re becoming something else
I think it’s time to walk away
I’ve experienced this feeling as a mom and wife quite a lot in the last few years. That feeling of looking at myself and thinking, ‘Who am I?’ After being a stay-at-home-mom for so many years, I have had a real loss of confidence and an overwhelming feeling of ‘who am I?’, because ‘I’ has just not featured a whole lot. I’m slowly starting to figure it out and blogging is definitely helping me in my journey, but it’s been a real struggle at times. Sometimes it’s not about walking away, but changing something that doesn’t work for you. For me it has been finding a purpose besides my kids, getting exercise and looking after me a little bit more. Learning to ask for what I need and letting go of having to do it all myself, so that I can learn to be me and know who that is!